At one time or another, most of us have been or will be a Bridesmaid. Social custom dictates that a thank you gift is given to each bridesmaid and groomsman. This can be a wonderful, memorable and thoughtful moment between you and your girls, or it can be an awkward and uncomfortable memory that takes some time to get over. Here are a few tips to ensure you fall into that wonderful, memorable category and a list of bridesmaids gifts to avoid along with the reasons why.
A plastic cup holder with a plastic straw that has the word “Bridesmaid” running along the side? Let’s face it, it’s a little lazy and a tad bit cheesy. This is something that most likely will not be used after the wedding day itself and is not personal or thoughtful in the least. This is one gift that is very forgettable and is guaranteed to produce a fake smile and a sad, “Oh, wow…thanks!” If you have your heart set on something like a tumbler, a better option might be a stainless steel version, but with personalized names on the side instead of “Bridesmaid”. Try to avoid giving all of the girls the same gift; at the very least, give each girl a tumbler with their individual favorite color.
While some ladies might appreciate a makeup bag, the fact is, it’s a bit generic and relatively boring. It’s something you might find in a Christmas stocking or get from a coworker for your birthday. It’s not really a gift that says, “Thank you for being a part of this wonderful day.” Truth be told, most women already have four or five make up bags and it’s not the type of gift that will take anyone’s breath away, or serve as a reminder of the special day you all shared. One way you can make this item a better gift might be to personalize the outside, then fill it with a gift card to a spa or their favorite mini liquor bottles.
Coffee Mugs or Tea Cups
Again, like the makeup bags, most people already have quite a few of these at home and unless you personalize them, it’s not the type of gift that will bring back memories of the day. While these types of gifts may seem practical, they can be very vanilla if you don’t take a couple of extra steps. If you do find coffee mugs or teacups that you absolutely love and are sure the girls would like them too, make sure to include a pound of their favorite coffee or tea with them. Create a box with 2 mugs or cups on either side and the coffee or tea in the middle with some tissue paper the same color as the bridesmaid dresses.
Most brides want their bridesmaids to all to wear the same dresses, which is totally understandable. Many also require all of the ladies to wear the same jewelry as well. Brides, of course, have the option to purchase necklaces, bracelets or earrings for them, but unfortunately, many brides select inexpensive, low-quality jewelry. If you do opt to buy matching jewelry, do yourself and your wedding party favor and select high-quality items that they’d be happy and proud to wear in the future. One beautiful piece is always better than two or three inexpensive pieces.
Items with “Bridesmaid” on them
It’s understandable that for the days leading up to the wedding and for the wedding day itself, it’s fun to have items with the words, “Bride”, “Groom”, “Bridesmaid”, “Maid of Honor”, “Best Man”, “Mother of the Bride” etc written on them. But don’t make the mistake of having these items be your only gift. Thinking practically, anything that has “Bridesmaid” written on it will most likely not be used a lot in the days following the wedding.